Tuesday, February 10, 2009

I guess im going to be single forever if this is right.....


I found and was reading this and thought I would share.....Not looking so good for me. LOL


 


Have you ever dated a great guy for a long time... I'm talking about six months, twelve months, or even longer... and it was getting to the point where you needed to have "the talk" with him. But when you tried to bring up the topic of having a relationship and making a bigger commitment, his eyes just glazed over... and then he became distant from you... and the relationship ended soon after?


    You were trying to get CLOSER to him, and somehow he kept moving farther AWAY from you.


    I'm guessing that when one of these things happened, your girlfriends said things like:


    "He's just a jerk, forget about him".


    Or they said: "He doesn't see the mistake he's making or what he'll be missing". But he never seemed to see these mistakes... or even miss you. 


    And the worst part of all: You kept thinking about it.


 


The 3 Deadly Mistakes Women Make With Men Without EVER Realizing It...



  • Talking or saying nasty things about your past boyfriends. Saying bad things about men you have been involved with actually reflects the negatively back on YOU. It makes a man worry you are carrying around "baggage" that HE will have to deal with should he become involved with you.  (I'm def guilty of this, I have nothing good to say about my last relationship)


  • Speaking negatively about other women. When women call other women names like "slut", "bitch", and "crazy", it is anything but impressive to a man you are attracted you. Women will often do this when they see a good looking, desirable woman, especially if they feel their man might be attracted to her. This just makes a man think you are trying to cover up your own insecurities, and looking for validation and attention. Not good.  (Guilty of this as well, I make comments about everyone. Not out of jealousy just because that's how I am)

 



  •  Too much physical contact, especially in public.
    If you are constantly hanging on a man or touching him too much he'll start to see it as clingy behavior... but you'll never hear about this from him. It's far better to save your touches for short and infrequent moments that will surprise and enchant him. (I guess if I don't drink I would be ok on this one.)

» Mistake 2: Appealing To His "Sexual" Side Instead Of His Emotional Side


    Many women make the mistake of thinking that men are primarily driven by sex alone... and think if they can attract a man SEXUALLY they will be able to attract him EMOTIONALLY as well.


    Women too often give up sex to a man in the hopes that it will translate into a relationship and get them what they want. In reality, a man has the capacity to view a sexual connection and an emotional connection as two entirely different things, and it requires a special set of skills to mold these two things together in a man's mind... and keep them connected.


    Men are out for far more than just sex... and a woman who knows how to fulfill a man EMOTIONALLY and SEXUALLY will be the woman who captures a man's heart... and gets that same fulfillment for HERSELF.


» Mistake 3: Not Knowing How To Size Up A Man's "Relationship Potential"


    A lot of women will decide whether or not they should put energy into building a relationship with a man based on ATTRACTION.


    Yes, attraction is important. But it can also be DANGEROUS.


    When we feel a strong sense of attraction for someone, it can cause us to override our logic and ignore our instincts... leading us to overlook potential partner's deadly faults that could spell trouble down the road.


    If you've ever found yourself stuck in a relationship that is dragging you down, this is probably why.


    It's important to be able to size a guy up and spot any "warning signs" of a future bad relationship FAST... so you don't waste any of your time or emotional energy on someone who isn't right for you... or who will leave you heartbroken.

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